"Too" is now sexist, or is it just another neurotic lib?

Started by Solar, October 28, 2015, 12:07:27 PM

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Solar

One thing jumps out at me in this article. Kids have too damn much free time on their hands if they have time to fixate on nonsense like this.

The seasons have just changed, and I always want something new. Recently, I was looking in the mirror after a shower. I decided I wanted change. I have a very love-hate relationship with my hair. I love its uniqueness -- it seems signature to me. But I'm never really satisfied. Frustrated, I decided to text my friend. After a quick exchange of opinions about my hair, our conversation ended with, "Well you don't want it to be too short or too long." What she said was harmless, but it still caused an epiphany.

There is no proper way for a woman to cut her hair, let alone do anything right in this world. There seems to be an unobtainable one-millimeter-wide mark of perfection, and none of us can reach it. Everything is too this or too that. We see it every day in the tabloids. For example, one day a female celebrity is too revealing and the next day she is too matronly.

In my experience, I rarely hear too thrown around about men. You hear someone say, "He's short," but you seldom hear "too short." I hear women and men alike each day describing women as too something. But what does it really mean when you call a woman too? I asked myself, "too what?" I have determined that too means you're calling a woman too far away from your idyllic vision of what a woman should be. Something as small as calling a woman's dress too long or her muscles too built has a much larger social construct. With all the varying tastes and cultures in this world, it is impossible for a woman -- or anyone, for that matter -- to fulfill everyone's criteria. And why is it our responsibility to satisfy them, anyway?

My epiphany about this word surprised me. I view myself as a well-versed feminist, but I never realized how deeply a three-letter adverb could cut. Of course I'm not deeply offended by something as innocent as my friend thinking my hair is too short or too long. What makes me furious is the constant strain on females to find their unreachable perfect self. This realization really struck me when I figured out that I've never been satisfied with myself. My internal opinion is always that I'm too this or too that. I, like most women, have been deprived of self-satisfaction and appreciation because of this word and this attitude.
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I'd like to conclude this rightfully indignant rant by taking personal responsibility. A whole lot of sexism is in how men treat women, but there is another facet to misogyny: internalized sexism. Internalized sexism happens when women themselves mistreat other women based on their gender. Even as a devout feminist, I have personally described women in harsh ways that I'd never apply to a man. I have used the word too in an insensitive way when describing or analyzing a woman. But after teaching myself this lesson, I am taking a vow to ban the word too from my vocabulary. I encourage others to take a look at themselves on the spectrum of injustice. We are all a part of it, and it is important to make a personal change, if that's not too much to ask.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cameron-schaeffer/the-3-letter-word-that-cuts-women-down-every-day_b_8234202.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women
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Just when you think people couldn't get any nuttier, this comes along.  :rolleyes: I guess we have the government run gulags to thank.

Dori

Gosh

Feminists spend way too much time being too self involved and looking for ways to be victims. If anything, they are the abusers. 
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supsalemgr

Quote from: Dori on October 28, 2015, 12:26:20 PM
Gosh

Feminists spend way too much time being too self involved and looking for ways to be victims. If anything, they are the abusers.

They are best ignored.
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Solar

Quote from: Dori on October 28, 2015, 12:26:20 PM
Gosh

Feminists spend way too much time being too self involved and looking for ways to be victims. If anything, they are the abusers.
Well said. They are their own worst enemy.
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Quote from: Dori on October 28, 2015, 12:26:20 PM
Gosh

Feminists spend way too much time being too self involved and looking for ways to be victims. If anything, they are the abusers.

She need to get a real life.   :lol:
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kroz

This convinces me more than ever than feminists are miserable creatures.  Nothing makes them happy.  They are troubled souls looking for a cause.

Dori

Quote from: walkstall on October 28, 2015, 12:39:19 PM
She need to get a real life.   :lol:

She needs a good roll in the hay. 

That's probably what's wrong with most of them.   
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walkstall

Quote from: Dori on October 28, 2015, 03:59:13 PM
She needs a good roll in the hay. 

That's probably what's wrong with most of them.




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