I mean I've been annoyed by people before but this women makes me cringe every time she speaks. I pray every morning she won't talk to me and it's like nails on a chalk board when she starts conversation.  I've disliked people in the past but I've never had problems if they started a conversation with me.  With her I dread when she comes in each morning and pray she won't ask me how my weekend was etc....I just try and only face my computer or pretend I'm on the phone.  Her voice and constant giggle (like a kid and she is 50) makes me want to hit someone.  Funny another coworker told me that she cringes everytime they hear her on the phone as well so that made me feel a little better.  From the beginning I knew there was something off about her but then she started calling in/late a lot and that added to my dislike.  She tells everyone her problems as well in detail.  I feel bad because I just can't talk to her without feeling sick....I tried to be civil.  I'm never outright rude, I don't have it in me to be,  but I guess I'm cold.  I'm hope everyday she will be let go (she already called on 5 times in 5 months, one time for a whole week) but doesn't seem to be happening.  Why do I have such seething hate for this person and how can I not let it affect my mood? 

Quote from: tracy9 on July 16, 2015, 10:57:12 AMWhy do I have such seething hate for this person and how can I not let it affect my mood?

Sounds like she has some problems.  The laughing thing sounds more like a nervous reaction.  A lot of people in emotional pain, put on a different face when they are at work. 

I remember having a very bad reaction to a girl in my scout troop.  Once I learned what was going on in her home, and why she was the way she was with me, it changed how I felt about her.

Quote from: Dori on July 16, 2015, 11:02:46 AM
Sounds like she has some problems.  The laughing thing sounds more like a nervous reaction.  A lot of people in emotional pain, put on a different face when they are at work. 

I remember having a very bad reaction to a girl in my scout troop.  Once I learned what was going on in her home, and why she was the way she was with me, it changed how I felt about her.

Good advice Dori, you're a good person.
Me? I'd just flatten her tires, sabotage her work station, redirect her mail,....you know, the usual stuff.

Of course I'm kidding....

I want to find the good in her but I just feel like she fabricated her stories.  She was out sick for a week saying she had the flu.  And when she came back she sounded fine.  No congestion,  no cough.  Nothing. 

I don't know the dynamics of your office but would it be possible to ask her to do something for you every time she approaches you?  It would be best to ask for some work related chore for her, but if not, ask her to do something personal for you.  If you continue to do this.... she will quit approaching you.

Quote from: kroz on July 16, 2015, 03:30:52 PM
I don't know the dynamics of your office but would it be possible to ask her to do something for you every time she approaches you?  It would be best to ask for some work related chore for her, but if not, ask her to do something personal for you.  If you continue to do this.... she will quit approaching you.

Now that's a solution.  See?  That's what I like about great forums with good people posting.  You can get about any reaction you could ever dream of on certain problems like this one.  Lord knows, I've encountered some wild cards in my work experience. 

I'm more like Solar on this one, just start "doing things" to her.  My sanity or hers?  I'd choose mine.   

Relationships get taxing and tedious when I feel I cannot be my genuine self and say what I feel. My resentment towards that person will grow if I have to keep pushing down my true feelings. When I was younger, I would sign up for this. Now, if someone aggravates me, I just look at them and say very nicely, "GO AWAY." You would be amazed at how those two words will change the dynamics of your relationship with this woman.