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Offline marksch19

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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #15 on: October 13, 2012, 09:38:33 PM »
Haha, but yes, in the first few months, she didn't kind of like me because back then I was a filthy socialist hahaha, she opened my eyes  :thumbsup:

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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #16 on: October 14, 2012, 06:20:31 AM »
Okay, I know this story sounds a little like a movie, but I swear this is true:

So yes, while I'm keeping in touch w/ her, this girl from my school invited me out to a date. I was on the fence...but before I went there I asked God to give me a sign if this Israeli girl is right for me, so I prayed deeply...

...three hours later, the girl didn't turn up. Turns out she had a doctor's appointment. I couldn't believe it, God actually answered my prayers!

As for raising kids, I can let her raise them Jewish (as long as she raises them Conservative Jews), but of course, when they grow up, I'd like them to convert to Christianity out of their own accord.

Yes, I've given out a lot of concessions (sorry guys, most of it is private), but I don't count them, I've gotta put her needs first above me  :love:

And you know, since 95% of the people here are way older than me, I know you might call it puppy love, but oh well  :smile:

Politics wise, we're compatible as well, she's centre-right.

Age has nothing to do with love.  My daughters did not speak to me for several months when I announced I was moving in with Solar after only knowing him for 3 months.  I am sure they assumed it was puppy love.  Sometimes when it is right you know it is right and others opinions do not matter. 

The fact that you are asking for others opinions tells me you are not sure.  So I will tell you what my father always told me and that I now tell my daughters.  If you are happy that is all that matters.  Meet the girl and decide.  Ask God for he will not let you down.

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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #17 on: October 14, 2012, 07:05:34 AM »
Okay, I know this story sounds a little like a movie, but I swear this is true:

So yes, while I'm keeping in touch w/ her, this girl from my school invited me out to a date. I was on the fence...but before I went there I asked God to give me a sign if this Israeli girl is right for me, so I prayed deeply...

...three hours later, the girl didn't turn up. Turns out she had a doctor's appointment. I couldn't believe it, God actually answered my prayers!

As for raising kids, I can let her raise them Jewish (as long as she raises them Conservative Jews), but of course, when they grow up, I'd like them to convert to Christianity out of their own accord.

Yes, I've given out a lot of concessions (sorry guys, most of it is private), but I don't count them, I've gotta put her needs first above me  :love:

And you know, since 95% of the people here are way older than me, I know you might call it puppy love, but oh well  :smile:

Politics wise, we're compatible as well, she's centre-right.
I personally believe puppy love is the love in it's purest form, simply because the heart overrules commonsense, but then, isn't that was love does?

Is there a reason you can't take things slower? It sounds as if you are on the fence of making a lifelong commitment, without having ever met the person. This is not the decision one should make so early in a relationship.
If it's meant to be, it will happen, slow down!

Put your feelings and loneliness aside for a moment and pretend you are counseling a friend in the same circumstance, ask questions you need answers to, if God is listening, you will get the answer.
But you really need to separate your personal feelings and let your core values and commonsense answer these questions.
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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #18 on: October 14, 2012, 07:49:15 AM »
Thanks, Mr & Mrs Solar for the advice, much appreciated :)

Well we do take things slower, she has to go to the army next year & I have to finish Year 12.

I'm currently doing volunteer work to earn work experience & then find a job & save up money to go to Israel   :laugh:

I don't know, but ever since I've met her, I feel somewhat changed, I mean, I've had a few girls in the past but I don't know, they lack every thing that she has.

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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #19 on: October 14, 2012, 10:22:33 AM »
Thanks, Mr & Mrs Solar for the advice, much appreciated :)

Well we do take things slower, she has to go to the army next year & I have to finish Year 12.

I'm currently doing volunteer work to earn work experience & then find a job & save up money to go to Israel   :laugh:

I don't know, but ever since I've met her, I feel somewhat changed, I mean, I've had a few girls in the past but I don't know, they lack every thing that she has.
You're young, you should and will have many relationships before you find the right person.
If she is the right one, years of growth to come before you meet would only be a plus in maturity, making for a much stronger relationship for the both of you.

I speak from experience, you really need to get out and experience life first, before you commit to one person.
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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #20 on: October 14, 2012, 11:49:50 AM »
I'd say end it.  She's too far away, and there are plenty of hot chicks in Australia.

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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #21 on: October 14, 2012, 12:13:17 PM »
I'd say end it.  She's too far away, and there are plenty of hot chicks in Australia.
Hear here!
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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #22 on: October 14, 2012, 06:05:34 PM »
Hear here!

I was 29 before the right one came along.  My young son is 39 and looking yet.   :lol:

Time is on your side and hers. 

The powers above (God) has always worked in extraordinary ways for me and the good wife.   It has not failed us yet   :thumbsup: :thumbup:
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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #23 on: October 14, 2012, 08:20:45 PM »
I was 2.5 months into my 20th year when I got married, statistically everything was against us.  We knew without question that we were for each other, in fact, we made a commitment before we ever wed that once we said our I do's, we were bound for life, the vows were not going to be just pretty words.  We gave each other the option to walk away, neither of us could.  It hasn't always been easy, especially for Matt, he went from having a very active wife, to having a cripple.  That would be tough for anyone, but we are stronger now than we have ever been.  We were told by many people that we would not last a year, my mom was one of them.  Understand that you may get hurt, but trust in God, try not to make plans until He gives you the go ahead.  A wise man once said, "you've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em.  Know when to walk away, know when to run.". If you rush into things, you may miss God's insight, she might be the one, might not, but wait until you know.  :smile:

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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #24 on: October 14, 2012, 09:12:29 PM »
Well I never knew Kenny Rogers was such a philosopher.

Thank you all & Kari for the responses :)

And yes, there are a lot of hotties down here, but eh, c'mon, most of them of are dumb, they don't even know the 1st PM here.  :sad:

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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #25 on: October 14, 2012, 09:16:10 PM »
Well I never knew Kenny Rogers was such a philosopher.

Thank you all & Kari for the responses :)

And yes, there are a lot of hotties down here, but eh, c'mon, most of them of are dumb, they don't even know the 1st PM here.  :sad:




It is nice knowing the U.S. is not alone in that area.   :lol:  :lol:
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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #26 on: October 15, 2012, 05:40:15 AM »
I was 2.5 months into my 20th year when I got married, statistically everything was against us.  We knew without question that we were for each other, in fact, we made a commitment before we ever wed that once we said our I do's, we were bound for life, the vows were not going to be just pretty words.  We gave each other the option to walk away, neither of us could.  It hasn't always been easy, especially for Matt, he went from having a very active wife, to having a cripple.  That would be tough for anyone, but we are stronger now than we have ever been.  We were told by many people that we would not last a year, my mom was one of them.  Understand that you may get hurt, but trust in God, try not to make plans until He gives you the go ahead.  A wise man once said, "you've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em.  Know when to walk away, know when to run.". If you rush into things, you may miss God's insight, she might be the one, might not, but wait until you know.  :smile:
You raised the most important point of all, God.
It's one thing to ask God to give you what you, but its another to accept what God chooses for you.

I asked God for years for a certain type, all to no avail waiting for what I thought would be the perfect woman for me, then one day I relented and asked god to send me what he thought was best for me, he did, he sent me ST, a perfect match.
All one needs to do is relax and ask for gods help and guidance, he will never fail us.
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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #27 on: October 15, 2012, 07:00:00 AM »
I had an online dating experience once. Big Martha didn't look at all like her profile pic, I was banned from the Greek buffet, and I still can't get the cigarette smell out of my car.  :thumbdown:

Seriously, though, I'd say tread very carefully here. Until you have some personal interaction with her, you won't konw whether the two of you are right for each other. I guess what I'd advise is, don't rush into anything.

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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #28 on: October 17, 2012, 01:28:09 PM »
You mention a couple of things that give rise for concern; the first and most important thing being that one being that you say you're a "Christian".  If you are a Christian, not in name only, you should give credence to what the Bible says.  It says "do not be unequally yoked".  That means that we aren't to have deep, ongoing, close, marriage, relationships with someone who is not a follower of Christ, a Christian.  That only brings a lot of problems between you and any kids that may come along.  God designed us as humans, He designed marriage and He knows how marriage and business relationships work the best.

Being a long way apart and not having met face to face, spend some time and money and go visit the gal for a couple of weeks.  Do not stay at her place and don't let the physical part of a relationship mess/cloud things.  Once you're married there is plenty of time for that part of the relationship.  After a period of a few months or so have her come to the area where you live.  Have her stay with a family you know and let her see you in your environment for a couple of weeks.

Let the relationship have some time to cultivate.  "A bad relationship is worse than no relationship".   
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Re: Advice needed
« Reply #29 on: October 17, 2012, 10:25:03 PM »
I had an online dating experience once. Big Martha didn't look at all like her profile pic, I was banned from the Greek buffet, and I still can't get the cigarette smell out of my car.  :thumbdown:

Seriously, though, I'd say tread very carefully here. Until you have some personal interaction with her, you won't konw whether the two of you are right for each other. I guess what I'd advise is, don't rush into anything.

hahahahahaha  Years ago, I had a blind date a friend hooked me up with.  I kept telling him no, but he was overly persistent.  I described the type of girl I am in to, and he swore up and down that was her.  Finally, I gave in and went to pick her up.  It was a moonlit night, and when I tell you when she was walking outside, and she blocked out the moon, I'm not exaggerating.   I had to get new suspension the next day.  It turns out it was a practical joke.  Haaaa freakin haaa.

 

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